Why can't a teenage boys just say they don't want to go out without someone instead of being so mean about it?

My daughter texted a boy asking him out and instead of just saying ';no'; he said, '; no way in hell I'd go out with a fat retard like you'; How mean! It makes me want to hunt him down and straggle the living crap out of him!





BTW wish I had a pic for you my daughter is not fat only 130 pounds so his insult didn't even make sense.Why can't a teenage boys just say they don't want to go out without someone instead of being so mean about it?
they're still young and immature about love...i wish i could tell you that it gets better.Why can't a teenage boys just say they don't want to go out without someone instead of being so mean about it?
Why do teenage girls cut each other down by gossiping about each other behind their backs (essentially saying similar things as what that boy said about your daughter)? I can't defend it, but teenagers build themselves up by taking other people down. It's all a part of a very confusing time in their lives as they are developing an identity - hopefully at the very least your daughter knows that this boy is pathetic and picking on her to make himself feel good, and that she would never do the same thing to another person.
Not all teenage boys are mean. Another stereotype that I openly disagree with. My ex-boyfriend is the most kind-hearted person I know, when he wants to be. He's been through a lot including his mothers death and his best friends death. He is nice to those who are nice to him, but the minute you annoy him or hurt him, the nice guy temporarily goes away. If a girl is calling your phone 15 times in a day when you have made it clear, in the nicest way possible, that you were not into them, it's hard not to be mean. Some people are never taught to have respect and compassion for others, some people learn it but ignore it, and some need to be mean even if it kills them. It sounds as if this boy is immature and his mind is entangled in the media. Tell her to cheer up, she doesn't want to date a jerk like that anyway!
Because they're young, for one. Therefore immature. They don't have enough life experience to realize that when they say those things, it can scar a person for life. For another, some of them are simply mean. Another area where they don't have the adequate life experience to understand that it's not cool to be that way. For a third, they think they're being cool by behaving that way. When I was in school I noticed that the more mature and intelligent a boy was, the nicer he was to the girls in those cases.
Many teenage boys are immature. That's the truth. They don't have the life experience to put themselves in someone else's shoes and see how they might feel. Not all boys would say that - it's too bad that boy's parents haven't taught him humility and kindness.





I'm sorry your daughter had to go through that. Tell her that she did a brave thing by asking him out and that one day she WILL find someone who who loves and cares about her for who she is. It's scary to go out on a limb and boys like that have a lot of growing up to do. I feel really sorry for him. Keep raising your daughter to be brave and courageous and to love herself. :o)
You know, if you want something done about it, I know someone who specializes in shoving rude, obnoxious boys down flights of stairs.... just kidding. Lol. But I know what you mean. Boys are so... vulgar and impolite sometimes. And no, 130 lbs is not fat and guys are just kind of ridiculous sometimes and most of them have the unnecessary trait of lying and being extremely outrageous. Sigh. Well, I hope that guy didn't hurt your daughter's feeling too bad. I'm sure she deserves someone much better.
Boys don't have the market on mean cornered.....as I recall, high school girls can be pretty heartless. Have you ever seen a girl make fun of an awkward kid and get a whole crowd to laugh at him?





But, what he did was terrible and it makes me want to teach him some manners.


Good side - these things will make her stronger in the long run even though it hurts now.
i, too really hate those kind of guys!


i think they are like that coz they think that they are all that and perfect and doest want to out girl who is not perfect as they are... they are really rude when dumping a girl is simply because they only want to have fun making the girl emberssed in front of people..
look not every teenage boy is like that, but frankly, some people are *****, and unfortunately there's nothing you can do about it, but think about this, if that guys such an ***, then you don't want your daughter going out with him anyway
Because teenage boys are idiots. I'm sure you remember the horror of being a teenage girl. Now they have to deal with texting, and Myspace, All of that makes the ';oh so life altering drama'; spread a little faster.
ouch... well how did SHE take it?


im sure she will get over it when she is old enough to be meeting man NOT boys.





BTW i don't have kids, but you read your kids txts? arent you lil too involved in her life? i could be wrong...
well its simple, she texted him! any idiot know you dont ask someone out by texting, your not even talking to them. He's thinking your daughter is an arrogant piece of crap for texting him instead of calling or meeting with him.
cuz dudes like that are aholes she prolly asked one of the popular or the person that thinks they are popular out and he didnt want to tarnish his reputation so he was an a hole
he is obviously stupid. boys have problems with egos. by turning your daughter down, and in a mean way, he feels like hes on the top of the world. he thinks that girls are just gathering around him. boys are stupid.
because they are teenage boys. they don't know any better. plus that boy was most likely raised in a barn if he said something that horrid. no manners.
That's a pretty broad generalization...It's not a good idea to generalize like that. By the way it's a bad idea to ask someone out through text....
I'd want to hunt down the little prick too....





He'll be an insecure little bastard that elevates his own self-worth by putting down others...
Teenagers are stupid especially during that middle school phase. They get so concerned about fitting in with the rest of society and being ';cool';.
i honestly dont know anyone that acted like this.. your wrong about judgement in teenage boys. i never heard of anyone being so offensive in a situation like this..
well im a teenage boy and i couldnt possibly imagine saying that to anyone.


sorry for you daughter
Because like you said, they're teenage boys. ):





Oh man, I feel for your daughter. Don't let that bring her self esteem down. I'm sure she is a very lovely girlie.
Your daughter probably asked a jock or ';bad boy'; out.


I HATE those other guys, I'm 14 and I would have been way more polite than that idiot.
He sounds very immature.





Maybe she should limit her texting to close friends and family for awhile.
Don't worry. She'll get over it. All girls (well, at least the ones I know) are insulted by guys, and we get over it.
This sounds like something his friends would have done and him being a jerk didnt stop it.
stupid teenage boys i swear ive been to hell and back with them. i gave up a while ago.
thats life homie





we all say crap we shouldn't have
she probably just caught him off guard
**** happens maybe he don't have the balls to go out with ur daughter
I don't know they are immature I guess.
cuz they wanna get laid n not go out with someone...been there before and if she really is ugly(takin ur word she isnt) they just try to act cool about it thats all...been there before trust me...





edit:130 lbs isnt fat...chubby girls are hot...not fat but not a size zero 54 lbs lol thats gross...girls with shape are nice...








wtf seriously who gave me thumbs down....sorry i speak the truth n blow ur cover lil teenage horn dogs